how to reject someone

You’re at the party. You’ve made it. Everyone’s so much fun to talk to. PLAY HAS STARTED. Then, someone comes up to you and asks if you’d like to play with them. You might panic if this person just isn’t your type and you want to say no. We’ve been taught to be so polite that we go against our own boundaries.

NOT HERE! 

Turning someone down? Be cool, friends. Here at FWB, it’s safe to say no! We love you, and we love your boundaries. We love your no just as much as your yes. You can say a very simple, ‘Hey no thank you, appreciate you asking!’ Put your own spin on it in whatever way feels good to you. 

We work hard to curate the right group so everyone feels comfortable. If you’re ever feeling uncomfortable, contact one of our staff, hosts, or guardians so we can address it. Your comfort and safety is our top priority. We ask that everyone is respectful and kind in their asks, as well as their rejections. 

Be direct, but nice. 

Don't ghost them or make up an excuse. Just politely say you're not interested in taking things further or offer an alternative if you’re open to other things with them. 

Keep it about you, not them. 

They don't need to hear they're not your type or you think they're a bad kisser. Just a simple "I'm just not feeling a connection" or "I'm flattered, but no thanks" will do.

Help them make another connection.

If they seem bummed, nicely recommending rejoining the party or finding a host lets them exit the convo with pride intact. Offer to get them a drink or introduce them to other partygoers they might vibe with.

Rejection is hard for everyone. But communicating clearly and with compassion minimizes hurt feelings. And being direct avoids leading someone on or sending mixed signals.